- 4 days ago
- 1 week ago
I THINK WHAT PISSED ME OFF THE MOST IN CAP 2 IS HOW LITTLE MILK PIERCE POURS IN THAT GLASS. LIKE IT’S THE TINIEST PORTION OF MILK IMAGINABLE. “DO YOU WANT SOME FUCKING MILK” NO LET ME POUR MY OWN FUCKING MILK. AND LET ME POUR THE LEAST. POSSIBLE. MILK. I CAN. POSSIBLY POUR INTO THIS GLASS. THE SMALLEST PORTION OF MILK POSSIBLE. U HAD AN ENTIRE CARTON. AND A LARGE GLASS. AND YOU POUR WHAT. LIKE. 2 INCHES OF MILK INTO THAT GLASS. PIERCE PISSED ME OFF THE MOST IN THAT SCENE.
I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE
finally someone says it
- 1 week ago
A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.
“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”
Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.
My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.
“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”
Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.
“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.
What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.
Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.
And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?
- 1 week ago
This whole rant, as funny as it is, makes a very good point. He’s not advocating hurting women but what he does talk about is how whenever there is a story where a woman gets beaten NO ONE examines what the woman did. It’s ALWAYS on the man. He does say that people who do beat women (Wife beaters and such) should be “Buried under a prison” but he also is saying that women act like they are so perfect, and there is not ONE REASON to hit a woman. The point here is that the argument of “There is never any reason to hit a woman” is ludicrous. The BETTER thing to say is “Do not hit people” not that there is never a reason. There are plenty of reasons you might want to hit A LOT of people, you just DON’T.
On another note I assumed feminists REALLY hate this guy and I will get a bunch of hate for agreeing with him, but I don’t care. He’s absolutely right. If you noticed a woman did scream she thinks about hitting her guy in the head EVERY DAY and people laughed at it. He points out that she didn’t do it, she thought about it, she had reasons but she didn’t hit him. That’s the whole point. No one is completely innocent, and there are many reasons to do many things, but having a reason doesn’t mean doing it. Unless your life is immediately threatened there is no need to lay your hand on another person. There are PLENTY OF reasons though and that’s what people forget.
The comedian was funny and made his point. It’s the commentary that nags at me.
Reading someone say that you “just don’t” hit people, but oh there are so many reasons to, doesn’t really instill me with confidence. It feels like emphasizing the litany of provocations is more important to them than discouraging violence and abuse. Telling people “just don’t” has never worked for anything. You need them to stop thinking in the way that causes the problem. i.e., stop thinking that they should hit someone who has made them angry. In some cases, stop them feeling so entitled that they are easily enraged.
We KNOW that some people are just going to latch on to the part where their “reasons” for violence are being validated. Even if that’s not what’s intended.
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- 1 week ago
A young black girl decided to not bleach her skin after seeing the success of Lupita Nyong’o.
Lupita Nyong’o was inspired to be an actress after seeing Oprah Winfrey and Whoopi Goldberg in The Color Purple.
Whoopi Goldberg realized she could BE an actress after seeing Nichelle Nichols in Star Trek
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